You Still Belong in Our Story: Remembering Your Baby After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Loss

This book is for parents seeking a private or shared way to acknowledge a pregnancy or baby who died through miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss. It is written for losses that may have left many tangible traces and for those that left almost none; for experiences spoken about openly and those held within a very small circle; for parents certain of their language and those who remain unsure what words belong to what happened.

Its focus is not on prescribing a correct form of remembrance. Instead, it helps readers consider the choices beneath remembrance: what to call the baby or pregnancy, what to preserve, which parts of the story to tell, who may know them, and what boundaries may be needed. It explores rituals that can remain modest, places where memory can live, dates that return with changing meanings, and the practical questions that arise when objects, records, relationships, and family structures change over time.

Special attention is given to differences within families. Partners may grieve in unlike ways. Children may need honest inclusion without being made responsible for carrying adult sorrow. Relatives and friends may be welcome in one part of the story but not another. The book offers language for recognizing those distinctions without demanding agreement, disclosure, or a single permanent account.

Reflection prompts and adaptable practices appear throughout. They may be completed alone or with someone else, in writing or through conversation, immediately or much later. Their purpose is not to settle the meaning of the loss. They are tools for deciding what deserves a place, what form that place might take, and how remembrance can remain truthful even when certainty, language, and circumstances continue to change.